I loved that he calmed me down, he loved that I brought excitement into his life

27th marzo 2022

I loved that he calmed me down, he loved that I brought excitement into his life

Oh, boy. I was the introvert in that particular situation once or twice, and... yeah. I just wound up SO TIRED. (Caveat: I'm someone who is happiest working from home where I don't have to speak to anyone for days on end. I'm a hermit introvert)

Online dating hasn't worked at all for me, and I think part of that may be that I wasn't using the systems the way most people were

Now I'm married to someone who understands my preferred way of spending an evening (good food, good books, good sex) and who actually arranges childcare so the kids go somewhere else and we can stay home together. You can't even know how much I appreciate that. ??

Yes! I was seeing somebody for a little while who was all the things I'm not http://www.besthookupwebsites.org/omgchat-review/ but that I really value in a partner – he was essentially my foil. But the thing is, we liked being each other's foil. It was maybe the first time I'd really felt appreciated for being exactly who I am and it was GLORIOUS.

I sort of thought that this was the entire point of profiles on dating sites, and especially those compatibility quizzes where one can identify acceptable responses as with OKCupid

I find the idea of appealing to a wide variety of people exhausting before I even begin. I'm an introvert. Can't I be picky and chase off all but the most suitable-for-me?

I haven't looked at dating sites in ages (not since I was working on a thesis project ages ago) and one thing that I found immediately distasteful (besides Ayn Rand, “no fat chix,” fedoras for no good reason and professions of being a really Nice Guy to whom the bitches just don't give a chance) were multiple egregious grammar and spelling errors. I have friends with learning disabilities who occasionally will type a homonym or misspell something and I do understand that not everyone is a walking Strunk and White or Harbrace, and that's fine. Typos also happen. But there were SO MANY adults who could not write coherently, or like grown-ups, that I got very discouraged. I know I'm a reader, education matters to me (so many friends and relatives are teachers, I have multiple degrees), and that I don't want to spend the rest of my life automatically mentally proofreading everything my significant other writes down (or cringing internally over horrifyingly bad spoken grammar OBVIOUSLY doesn't make anyone a bad person, it is just one of my pet peeves.

But, yeah, I'd take a thousand “ain't got none”s or “he done good”s over a large collection of Ayn Rand (or Scientology) books.

I sort of thought that this was the entire point of profiles on dating sites, and especially those compatibility quizzes where one can identify acceptable responses as with OKCupid

I find the idea of appealing to a wide variety of people exhausting before I even begin. I'm an introvert. Can't I be picky and chase off all but the most suitable-for-me?

A majority of people don't appear to agree, given how bland and general most of the profiles I've seen are. It actually seems like a lot of people would rather avoid rejection (for good reasons of likely incompatibility) than use it as a tool to help filter people with whom one isn't compatible for whatever reasons. I find it baffling.

Unfortunately, given the popularity of Tinder and clone services, I really haven't tried again in years, becasue I refuse to link third party apps to my Facebook profile for reasons that should now be obvious to everyone (and I thought were clear all along, hence my refusal to use services like Tinder, but apparently not given how many people are upset by the fact that their Facebook information is functionally public).